One of the doubts that most grips those who enter a non-monogamous lifestyle concerns the sphere of feelings: if it is true that practicing swinging can be very sexually exciting and satisfying for everyone, in fact, in many cases there is the fear that one’s partner may begin to feel something more for one of the playmates . So how do you keep feelings under control and not ruin everything?
Non-monogamous relationships: what risks for the sentimental part
Choosing to open up your own couple , whether it’s swinging or other forms such as polyamory or cuckoldism , is a very delicate passage for both partners, who in many cases arrive at this decision after years of monogamous relationship to add a pinch of pepper to one’s sexual sphere. A fear that can slow down this path, however, is that of being able to ruin years of marriage or engagement by letting a third person or another couple into one’s bed, adding the risk that the other may begin to experience different feelings. But are we sure that this is a real risk?
The answer is “it depends”: in fact, it is first of all necessary to understand how solid the couple is regardless of this choice and be aware of the fact that, if there are already problems and crunches, the level of risk can be the same even remaining in a condition of monogamy. Indeed, according to various researches, it is much easier to suffer a betrayal in a “traditional” couple than in an open one and the divorce rate linked to factors such as monotony and dissatisfaction is higher precisely among the so-called monogamous. It is equally evident, however, that in a couple that is already facing some difficulties, sexual openness cannot be a solution to fix things, but could actually make them worse. How to behave then?
Communication always comes first
When you decide to sexually open up the couple , you have to put communication first: being honest and sincere is in fact extremely fundamental in this step and every sensation experienced during the various experiences must be shared and discussed with the partner. The most solid swinger and open couples talk a lot, they exchange fantasies and intentions and face every feeling in two, strengthening their bond even more, and this becomes even more important if situations arise in which one of the partners seems to enjoy the experience more than the other. In this case, in fact, it is easy to feel “neglected” and come across negative emotions and it is important to address the topic immediately so that it can be made clear that the external participant cannot replace the partner.
The importance of rules
Swinging can be seen as a very exciting game, in which however it is essential to establish limits and rules not to be exceeded . This is one of the first secrets of the most satisfied open couples , who in this way base everything on shared choices and on a relationship of extreme honesty. If there are situations that could make you uncomfortable , people you prefer to avoid or other aspects that you think … Read the rest